We are always asking and searching for answers on how to be happy. Aristotle once said, “We are what we repeatedly do. Happiness then is not an act but a habit.”
If you want to be happy and stay happy you need to remember you have to work at it. Work at being happy? Yes. Everything that is worth having needs effort from you. That includes happiness.
How to be happy and stay that way? Well, by constantly practicing being happy. Learn from your mistakes, adjust and work at it again. I liken the pursuit of happiness to a series of continuous short races that never ends.
It is hard work but if you have the wisdom to see how it all adds up, you may just find your nirvana or heaven whichever the case maybe.
If you want to be happy and to stay happy, you need to cultivate. That means see yourself nurturing the habits that brings happiness to you. You may not succeed every day in doing it, but this pursuit of perfection is what will contribute bit by bit you being happy and staying that way.
What are some of the things you can do then on how to be happy and stay happy?
Here we are not just talking about donations. Giving involves a lot more. It means giving up bad habits. What are the bad habits that bring you stress? Give up on these habits. Are you disorganized? Being muddled in all aspects of your life may withdraw you a lot of happiness you are seeking. Once you learn to give up bad habits you will gradually become happier.
Ever considered giving in? Do you hold on to sentiments that you hide as ideologies and are too egoistic to let go? Give in; you do not always need to win an argument. You do not always need to be the car in front in a traffic jam. You will soon learn when you give in; you do not lose but stand more to gain.
Give out, yes by this it means charity. Help someone in need and do not judge who is well-meaning of your help. Comfort a rich person who is in need. Sometimes people think there are people unfit of our help. The practice of giving to gain happiness is one that helps us learn about detachment.
Reflect, Discourse and Ensure
In all that you think, say and do. Make sure there are as compatible as possible. A lot of times, what you speak to people and what you practice is different. When what you think, feel and do is not in line you will not find contentment. Even if you do, it will not stay that way.
Think good thoughts. Do not scheme behind people’s back and think good of people. Think how you can help people rather than conspiracy for egocentric goals. Avoid telling lies, gossiping and punitive language. The Chinese has a saying loosely translated that says, “Sickness comes in through the mouth, trouble come out from the mouth.” It means we become sick from the things we swallow and we get into trouble with the things we say. Ask yourself, do you speak the truth? Do you speak gently? Say things that will help others? And speak at a appropriate time and place? Do good things and be of good conduct. It can be as simple as not getting befuddled, being organized, not procrastinating or even waking up early to get your life organized. Small things like these add up to being happy and staying that way.
How to be happy and to stay happy is a cultivation that takes time. It cannot be immediate and it is not one that you do and forget. Take small steps, you will stagger but if you keep at it, eventually you will feel happier and stay that way longer.